Valentine Week: #1 Old is Gold…

Before I start with the story, I would like to share my thoughts behind this idea which was initiated by a fan of mine, to dedicate the whole valentine week with seven different real life stories. I don’t write just because someone asks me to, I write when I get the mood, when I get thoughts in my head. But when I met my fan personally and gave my first autograph of my life, this is the least any writer could do for his readers. So this one being an exceptional case, for that unknown girl who is so mad about my blogs and who sees me as a hero, as someone who motivates her when she is low, someone who shows her a right path to follow her dreams, and someone who cries because things are disturbed in my life. So whatever I will write this whole week, it is dedicated to all my readers, all those people who love reading my blog.

 

 

The first story that I would like to share for this valentine week, is about those two love birds who dared to fall in love with each other when the odds were totally against them. When there was no such thing called cellular phones, Internet, Whatsapp or any other communication channels which would minimize the distance between them and keep them connected with each other in the toughest of all times. In those times, falling in love was a big deal for people unlike today where we switch our relationships as if we change our clothes. With time somewhere deep down love has lost its essence. With the advancement of technology, and the mind-set of people the theory of love has been changed quite drastically. So I planned to bring back all those fond memories of love in this valentine week. So that we can understand love in a much better way, and love someone unconditionally. As soon as we get into relationship we have our own expectations, we want few things to be in a certain way without even giving it a thought about the other person. We forget to give them their space and waste plenty amount of time over phones talking nonsense for hours and hours. People think if phone rates are low then we can talk more. Rates are low but does that mean you have enough to talk to each other? And then you have to answer them also why you don’t have anything to talk? You can’t have exciting things happening every day in your life. If you give each other their own space and talk with each other once in 3-4 days then the excitement and thrill of the relationship is always maintained, the essence exists always. But they don’t understand, no one does. They take things for granted and then one fine day when the relationship doesn’t work out, they end up blaming each other, abusing each other. They don’t see what they did that turned things around for them, they don’t see where they went wrong. Whenever a relationship breaks it’s not because of just one person, the ratio of their mistake might be different but there can never be a situation where the guy was entirely right or so was the girl. They never analyse themselves, in case of girls the guy was a bastard and for guys the girl was a slut. When everything was fine they were angels for each other and as soon as either of them turned their back they turned into the worst person in the world. I hope to see this mind-set of people changing, I hope to see people loving each other unconditionally, I hope people to understand that no one out there is perfect but if we try we can make our relationships perfect by exercising a good mutual understanding, giving each other space, helping each other out in tough times and the most important one, trusting each other and let them live their life the way they want to live. You should understand one thing, if you are in relationship that doesn’t mean it gives you right to control each other lives. And even after so much of your effort it doesn’t work out then accept it as a part of your life which was meant to happen, you will be satisfied because you know you did your part, you tried to save it to the extent you could try and move ahead with life. The feeling of taking revenge and destroying other people life would land you nowhere.

Having said that, let us now go back in time and enjoy a wonderful love story.

The love story happened in the era of 1990’s when things were so different from how it is now. Falling in love was like going on a war front. But there were these two people who dared to fall in love, irrespective of their caste and family mind-set. The girl was studying, the guy was preparing for competitive exams. The girl use to live with her sister’s family which comprised of her brother-in-law and two nephews. The guy use to live in the same building, and he had a great bonding with the girl’s sister family. So one fine day, the guy comes to their apartment to spend some time with the kids when he saw her for the first time. And as he says, it felt as if nothing else existed in the world. He could hear music like for real, which actually was coming from the radio but the essence of life is things happen at the right time, right moment. The girl was way too shy, and she moved her gaze away and her sister came. They had their normal conversation, the girl was silent than usual. The girl’s sister was very much fond of the guy and she used to treat him as her younger brother and they shared a great bond of brother-sister. The amount of respect both of them had for each other was great. And slowly slowly both the girl and the guy developed a soft corner for each other and without even talking with each other they used to speak their heart out. Great, isn’t it? Is it possible these days?

However life had something else in store for them. And the girl’s sister started suspecting that there was something going on between them which till then was not even in the picture. And so the girl was sent to Bangalore to complete her studies where her dad and the rest of the family lived. She came back to Bangalore and continued with her studies but she left a part of her in that guy’s heart. Something was amiss from her life, even though they never got a chance to talk they were actually in love with each other. And the distance which now existed turned them even crazier than they already were. But that was a time when we didn’t have much of communication medium, the time where the concept of love letter actually existed. And so she started writing letters to him, and so did he. She used to tell him everything about how Bangalore was like, how was her college, how much she missed him, how things were going on her side and how badly she wanted to be with him. He used to tell her about how lonely he feels now, how tough it has become for him to find a good job and how much he missed her. As the time passed, the frequency of letters started increasing. And even that was not easy, she had to hide all the letters so that no one else can read it. She has to make sure that whatever was happening should be kept as their secret. Everyday use to pass in the wait, the wait for his letter to come. When it will come she has to make sure she gets it before anyone else. The joy of having his love letter especially written for her in her hand, feeling damn too excited but opening it carefully at the same time so that nothing happens to the letter and reading again and again in the middle of night and imagining how things were on his side. In reply she used to write another letter but make sure she posts it secretly. And the same thing continued for another nine years when finally the guy was well settled in his life and the girl had also achieved what all she craved for. Everything changed around them in these nine years. Cellular phones, Internet came into fashion but if something that never changed was their unconditional love for each other, respect for each other. Even though they were miles apart the distance never bothered their relationship which now is one of the most common excuse for any breakup, saying oh it happened because long distant relationship never works out. They don't work out because you don't try hard enough for them to work out. And when I say try hard enough it means both of you will have to work on your relationship, if you want it for your life.

So they had to confront this in front of everyone. And it happened one fine day. It was during the time when the family started looking for her groom, and that’s when with the help of her sister and brother they brought this topic in front of the whole family and so did the guy in his family. They fought for their relationship for nine years staying apart from each other, writing letter to each other which was their only mode of communication for several years until secretly they started talking over phone which used to go very hard on their pocket. But as they say when you have the courage to do something you just end up doing it, without giving it a thought of the consequences which might follow. You don’t think, you just do.

However nothing is perfect in this world and even they had hard times dealing with each other but when there is unconditional love and respect for each other, even the darkest of times passes too quickly. And after the nine years of their relationship finally they got married in the year 2000 and they have been living happily with each other from past 14 years.

I decided to write about this story in first place just because of the beauty of their relationship. These days we can be in contact with each other anytime, still most of the relationships never works out. The reason being simple, the word unconditional love has been swapped by materialism, many people want girlfriend/boyfriend in their life as a status symbol. And few who really love each other either do not have courage to confront their love in front of their family, or they break apart because of some stupid reasons. Also in many cases what happens is after few years of relationship they say they are still confused about each other. Then why you were with each other in the first place? There are a lot other things to experiment about, why waste your time in experimenting with love?

Take a moment from your life and think about this. What is the definition of love? What do you think about love? You want someone in your life who talks to you all the time but doesn’t give you enough space to breathe and is way too demanding. Or you want someone who talks to you when he/she feels like talking to you and their love for you is unconditional without any demands any tantrums. What choice you would like to make?